This was me until this morning. I didn't have any doubt until he started to act out after school. We would ask how school was and he always answered, "I don't want to talk about it." Homework was horrible and made me question his new placement at school.
Briefly..... This was his transition year into middle school. He had been in autistic support his entire school career so imagine my surprise and sheer happiness when the elementary and middle schools decided he should be in learning support. Yay!! We were so excited and nervous for him. Autistic support meant 1:1 learning. Learning support meant much more independence, group instruction and he would be learning with kids 6th - 8th grades.
Everything went well at least for the first couple of weeks. Not sure how much they actually do at the beginning of school but by week 3, things had changed. He started getting homework and was fighting us on it. He wouldn't talk about his day. Not even what he had for lunch or what the other kid's names were. It was very frustrating.
Doubt started seeping in.
I started to question if learning support was the best placement for him. I mean, if he put up such a fight to complete homework, how the heck was he learning? Was he like this at school? Was he engaged? Did he need several prompts to complete a task? Was the school and teachers looking after his best interests or just putting him there because of classroom sizes? You know how your mind starts racing.
I called and made an appointment to go in and observe a class. Preferably language arts because that was the most push back at home.
Hubby and I went in this morning, without telling him. We didn't want him to fixate on our visit. We sat in the back of the classroom and were pleasantly surprised. He was following along. Answering questions. Engaged in the materials. Then they broke off into smaller groups and was independent with his work. Bonus....he looked happy! The classroom was so encouraging and inspired the kids to do their best.
THIS is what I needed to see to knock all of the doubt out of my head!! He was indeed doing it and enjoying it. As for the homework situation, I think after a full day of focus, he just wants to chill out. I can respect that!! If he would talk to us about his day, doubt wouldn't have made its squirmy way into my head but I think that is a preteen thing. ;)
I have NO DOUBT he does belong in learning support. I have NO DOUBT he is growing by leaps and bounds. I have NO DOUBT he is one smart boy who is going to make heads turn when he is an adult.